If someone would date another woman's man and it goes sour would it be wrong to tell the girlfriend about his infidelity with various women? The girlfriend only wants to confront the other woman instead of her man. The other woman also regrets and apologized for being involved yet the girlfriend has no idea that he got some totally different girl pregnant and still screws around with other women. Why would the other woman be wrong for telling the girlfriend if the girlfriend already knows about one incident, why not tell her the rest?

it would be all up to that woman or person to let it out but cause it went sour
for her don't mean she should go tell his other girl but if she feel it's best to
stop his action and wrong doing then why not talk and tell the whole story
but first why fool around with him anyway it's easy to see he nothing but a
wanna be playa bouncing around .....sometime they don't listen to crap or stuff
another say or in cases i've seen them get into a big fight cause of it when she
only trying to tell the truth on him it can go many ways with all kind of tales
some secrets fall out the sky anyway it can't last forever sho why not tell !

Let's raise the stkes to this to another level. The scenario you are presenting is after the fact of a woman having conspired in a relationship with a man who is also involved with another woman. There's something ingenuous about reporting his infidelity after the fact. It paints a picture of a woman who stepped away from higher principles to engage in an activity that has no honor. This is all the more a stain on a woman when she gives herself to a man who is sexing someone else. The whole thing is raggedy from the first, with the woman being tempted to inform the other woman once everything has soured.

It's a sorry thing when a woman or man makes merchandise of themselves, then, once what's already a corrupt situation, ends, all of a sudden they want to alert the other woman the man is a ham. There's something perverted about those kinds of situations. If that woman is going to be a woman who is at least attempting to be a woman of honor, she'd make her presentation up front. Why service the man in secret and cry foul in the open?

I realize what I'm bringing in this discussion is raw and unconventional, at least with the state of values people have embraced toda. Of course, there are no commitments as you have in marriage in this situation, but what you yield to as a single has a high potential for reasserting itself in marriage. We as Black people have a long way to go as it is, even further when we disrespect ourselves by living without principles. My thought is that there is a real need to re-establish virtue and commitment as a cornerstones of our kids' education. Otherwise, we will have no more than a mass of flesh wasting itself on activity that has no bearing where spirituality, morality and ethics are concerned. There's a reason for this, a very good reason, which the wise can comprehend while the deaf and dumb, and blind don't see or hear.

I appreciate the scenario you offered. I thought I'd address the post, telling it like it tis' rather than appealing to the situation with kid gloves. I hope you appreciate where I'm coming from. .........God bless...
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If someone would date another woman's man and it goes sour would it be wrong to tell the girlfriend about his infidelity with various women? The girlfriend only wants to confront the other woman instead of her man. The other woman also regrets and apologized for being involved yet the girlfriend has no idea that he got some totally different girl pregnant and still screws around with other women. Why would the other woman be wrong for telling the girlfriend if the girlfriend already knows about one incident, why not tell her the rest?

"which the wise can comprehend while the deaf and dumb, and blind don't see or hear."

Astro--
I am deaf and legally blind. I know you didn't intend to but this statement just feeds into the stereotypes I struggle against constantly. If you love me and think it possible for me to be wise then surely you can find another way to say what you want to say. I don't tell you this to make you feel bad but just be aware.

Now with all that said, your answer is right on!

The woman is just calling sour grapes. She enjoyed her affair while it was good and now that it went bad she suddenly wants to "confess." nonononono. A righteous person does not go around confessing other people's sins. If the woman already knows her man is cheating what is the point of throwing it in her face? What does she stand to gain from this sudden urge to come clean? If she thinks it's going to make her look more innocent she is dead wrong. All that will happen is that she will lose that friend because given a choice most women will choose their man over a girlfriend.

The relationship with the man was a huge mistake. I have spoken with his girlfriend one on one and she broke it down to me how horrible their relationship already was. I personally sat in front of her and apologized. We came to an agreement and now we both feel better about the situation. She on the other hand has to deal with him every day. He dogs her so bad in public and never comes home. Now I just told her that if she needed someone to talk to that I would listen because I know what it's like for a man to make you feel down.

This is a totally different story now that it is personal. I'm glad it worked out for you. I hope his girlfriend wakes up soon. Sometimes it takes a woman's last vestige of self respect to say enough is enough.