Amun-Ra
03-01-2001, 10:32 AM
Relationships may be made in heaven but they are maintained on earth and if they aren't done right--hell might be a better choice. The biggest problem in relationships is that women and men have different ideas about what makes a relationship. For my first piece, I decided to enter into controversial waters and give my opinions of what people need to do to make lasting relationships. Here are just a few ideas to make it happen.
Men: The key to building a successful relationship is the development of understanding and maturity and there are several things a man can do to make a relationship successful. You must provide a sense of permanence because a woman needs to know and feel that there is permanence in the relationship, that the relationship will endure, that high waters and rough seas won't break it on the reefs of indifference.
A woman must feel protected. Although, sometimes it is in the physical sense, it is more in the provisional sense. One way to do it is to work. A working man is a protecting man and a providing man. Women should be honored and praised whenever possible. Don't grow comfortable taking them for granted. This is when you must draw the line between friends and love. Your friends are now second, not unimportant, just second.
As a man, you need to develop perception. You must understand your partner if the relationship is to thrive, otherwise misunderstanding will ruin a shaky relationship and place a strong one on the rocks. Listening is a good way to start. Finally, be persistent. Find a way to make it happen.
Women: Men have a variety of needs that tie directly to their gender, their environment and beliefs, but there are some things that are universal to all men and one of them is that a man needs to know that he is loved always and that his partner supports his efforts and endeavors. We can be strange birds at sometimes. We need our space, not because we don't want our loves, but because we need a place where we can think. Men need privacy to work out their problems before sharing them with someone else and needs to feel the ability to act independently.
For most men, a man's love is often expressed most deeply in a physical nature, which should be no surprise, but many women overlook this as purely a physical thing--it isn't! Finally, a man needs to know that he is important to the relationship, needs you to share his triumphs and losses.
He needs your encouragement.
Obviously, many of these things apply to any relationship, but if we ignore any of them, we are placing our relationships at a serious disadvantage and face the risk of losing it altogether.
Amun-Ra
Men: The key to building a successful relationship is the development of understanding and maturity and there are several things a man can do to make a relationship successful. You must provide a sense of permanence because a woman needs to know and feel that there is permanence in the relationship, that the relationship will endure, that high waters and rough seas won't break it on the reefs of indifference.
A woman must feel protected. Although, sometimes it is in the physical sense, it is more in the provisional sense. One way to do it is to work. A working man is a protecting man and a providing man. Women should be honored and praised whenever possible. Don't grow comfortable taking them for granted. This is when you must draw the line between friends and love. Your friends are now second, not unimportant, just second.
As a man, you need to develop perception. You must understand your partner if the relationship is to thrive, otherwise misunderstanding will ruin a shaky relationship and place a strong one on the rocks. Listening is a good way to start. Finally, be persistent. Find a way to make it happen.
Women: Men have a variety of needs that tie directly to their gender, their environment and beliefs, but there are some things that are universal to all men and one of them is that a man needs to know that he is loved always and that his partner supports his efforts and endeavors. We can be strange birds at sometimes. We need our space, not because we don't want our loves, but because we need a place where we can think. Men need privacy to work out their problems before sharing them with someone else and needs to feel the ability to act independently.
For most men, a man's love is often expressed most deeply in a physical nature, which should be no surprise, but many women overlook this as purely a physical thing--it isn't! Finally, a man needs to know that he is important to the relationship, needs you to share his triumphs and losses.
He needs your encouragement.
Obviously, many of these things apply to any relationship, but if we ignore any of them, we are placing our relationships at a serious disadvantage and face the risk of losing it altogether.
Amun-Ra