Just a question I would like to put out...

Hello BlackEmpress ... Welcome to the Family ! :wave:

I think your question is a reasonable one and appreciate you asking it. Briefly, i do believe that far too many Black men have been raised without a Father and are in fact missing some major foundational support on which to build their lives. Unfortunately, it's not just Black men, but Black women too, that suffer from this. While there are many things that impact a life, missing this foundational support can only weaken the child, in spite of how unaffected they may appear.

Please, make yourself at home, because you are.

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Destee

I don't know exactly what is meant by the word 'weak' in the topic of this thread, but I'm sure it can have different definitions depending on different perspectives. Some might say that because I'm woman, I couldn't see this, but I don't view this question as an insult to Black men.

I'm glad that Black people have a different community viewpoint than whites. I'm glad that we see a need to analyze the many parts of the community, to see what makes it work and what doesn't. Racism has many influences on the mind. It could either make you see the glass as being half empty or half full. It's all about perspective.

Raising Black youth (men and women) to simply blend in with mainstrearm American society, could be viewed as a weakness. Some of our children only want to pursue the 'American Dream." Black parents allowing their children (men and women) to be consumed and controlled by mindless and mind altering activities put there to manipulate them to the advantage of and to cater to the dominant society, are raising 'weak' adults.

There's a saying that you get out what you put into something. Parenting is a major responsibility and should be taken very seriously. Whether it be a single parent or two-parent home, to me, it's all about what parents are teaching and demonstrating to their children. They will take away from you, the good and the bad.

MHO

The question is an insult. It actually assumes that Black men are weaker than other males. I keep seeing this statement or question. Weakness or lack of power is not sexual.
I think you have seen too many Terry MacMillan movies.

This question which I posed was in no way shape or form meant to disrespect my Black brothers, it is simply a question that I have indeed heard, not from any book or movie, but by mothers who are or have raised sons. They have questioned (and I feel are justified doing so) their parenting especially as a single mother.

Brother Isanusu ... this is a community made especially for Black folk and we will always have a majority of discussion, questions, etc., about Black men, women and children. I don't know why you expect discussions about white folk to be equally represented or even mentioned.

Both Queenie and myself mentioned the fact that none of this applies to men only.

In addition, you are welcome to start as many threads about women as you'd like. Matter of fact, i remember one specifically you started, PMS Put Me Straight (http://destee.com/forums/showthread.php?t=20441), where you ask,"If PMS does have mental and emotional effects, should women in positions of power and authority take monthly vacations?"This is insulting in my opinion, but i was willing to give you the benefit of the doubt, as you should give this Sister.

I'm sure she's just seeking information, as you were in your thread.

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Destee

the question is a valid one because nowdays a disturbing amount of black families are single household families...i see it everyday with my lil nephew...i try to be there for him as much as possible, but growing up around nothing but women, i believe, has stagnated his growth a lil...sometimes i have to be big bad mean uncle just for him to listen...if his father was in the picture this might be a different case, but maybe not...i do know that black people need to really think of our seperate issues(male and female) as just one set of issues...because seperating them i believe plays into the jim crow mentality that has plauged our people for quite some time...im sure if da brothers had a forum that talked about black men issues with sistas...there would be a lot of :mad: and angry black women on this site...cause to me, a black womans problem is my problem, along with my problems being my problem...because black women are my queen and my link to the future...i hope this makes sense...
peace
khasm