1. What would you do if your son/daughter told you they were homosexuals.

1. kick them out
2. Ask them if there was something you had done
3. Cry and ask them why
4. Sit still, think and ask them to talk

I would probably be hurt initationally. But I would sit down and talk to them. So that I could figure out when they realized they were attracted to the same sex. Also to see why they think this attraction occurred in the first place. Children need unconditional love and guidance.

Originally posted by Enigma_01
I would probably be hurt initationally. But I would sit down and talk to them. So that I could figure out when they realized they were attracted to the same sex. Also to see why they think this attraction occurred in the first place. Children need unconditional love and guidance.

AMANDLA!!! Yes my bro?sis?
This is a weLl thought out answer and yes, our children whether 6 or 26 need unconditional love. The days of sticking our heads in the earth and praying to an unseen GOD with blond hair are over its now about SPKNTRUTH2POWER.

NATUKAE

in the shock of how i felt, id probably kick them out.....then later on come to my senses and talk with them about their lifestyle

I'd probably invite the lover over.
Beat the crap out of the lover.
Then tell my kid hey.. I have other children. I don't want to see you again unless you change your ways.
Tough love works..

Hey HerukhuMaat..Welcome to the forum!!!!!..Glad u made it.......interesting commentary...Hope to see more of u on the forum..
Peace....

once a child always my child
i would do the same as Enigma....
try to fine out what happen and what makes them feel
they in love and the same sex ...

Definitely talk. You only alienate when you kick up a fuss. There is a reason for everything and if you believe you're born that way, then you probably missed the signs.

Nothing is worse than going through a confusing time in your life, and having to justify your responses and reactions at the same time. Sometimes we have to put our own feelings in the matter aside and try to help the individual through whatever they are going through.

I know once I helped my child deal with whatever was going on, I might take a minute to myself to freak out. Then you deal with it and move on.

Hi all

I would say that i don't care but that i insist in having grandchilderen.

Coming out to a parent is terrifying, especially if the family doesn't have any homosexual relatives or friends to pave the way.

I would acknowledge that this road won't be easy, and that I'll be accepting, supportive and loving no matter what. I would listen. Really listen. It's a BFD to come out, and I want to be a part of anything that's important to my child.

After it's clear that I'm ok with my kid's sexuality, I'd offer to get involved with PFLAG, march in Pride parades, take my kid to the local LBGT teen center - whatever s/he is comfortable with and interested in.

Like $$Rich$$ said: once my kid always my kid. More than anything, I want my kid to be happy. Who a person loves or f**** doesn't mean a thing to me. I'm more concerned with how the partner treats my kid. ;)

I will give my child a chance to change their wicked ways and if not, then don't speak to me. I will always love my child, but I cannot tolerate such an abomination. :nono: Since they choose to disgrace their family, they will be cast out..

A friend of mine from Nigeria told me that in many African traditions, if someone commited such an act, they would be forced to leave the village and not return untill they decided to come to their senses.

I agree with HerukhuMaat, sometimes tough love works.

Well well;
I see that we as a people still believe that disowning, beating up, chastising and ignoring our homosexual children will bring them around to our thinking. NOT!! get real!! Many people can't even work thier way into a fair raise in amerikkka by kissing but butt or kissing up to the ghost let alone scaring a person back into being a heterosexual. It is true that in Afraka many people are disowned but trust me there has never been any that i recall who have gone back to heterosexual lives they simply STAY IN THE CLOSET!

One can never tell who is doing what with who and no matter that you get all swollen and bent out of shape homosexuals could care less how we feel about thier business. My Queen brought up this subject just to test the waters and just like she said there are still people who believe what they believe and I am not mad atcha.

However, before I leave this to other more important things!!! LOL allow me to say thank you to all of you who have loved our people inspite of, and to those of you who know WHAT TIME IT IS!


FYI.
My Queen, and I are trying to have another child and that is why she will not be coming back for awhile. Yaazmyn, was 57 yrs old on 9/11 and she is till fully functioning LOL and feels fit enough to give us another prince or princess. You see my people there is no shame in our story we are as open as possible and as fair as possible under all circumstances...
Moreover, I will register a new name for myself and share a bit about life and our life here.


Prince

Alkebulantaazar, Im not trying to scare anyone, I just wont have anything to do with if they choose to commit such an act. Plus there have been many homosexuals who have seeked professional help and turned hetero. I SPOKEN TO THEM AND THEY TOLD ME THAT IT CAN BE DONE! Not to mention that they also claim that homosexuality is a 'sexual mental disorder'(mind you these are the same people who were once homos). While some probably do stay in the closet, many have literally changed.

I love our people, no matter what but I will not 'love' their Eurocentric ways nor will I go along with something that rebels against the natural order of Mother Nature.

Jah/Yahweh forbid such a situation would ever arise, but I would say # 4. Sit still, think and ask them to talk. Eventually, I'd get around to #2, was it something about my parenting or something I did or did not do? No matter what, I would be loving, listening and calm, but I would not accept such a decision (to engage in homosexual relations). Nothing I could probably do about it, but I would not under any circumstances give such a lifestyle my blessing. I would not condone it.

Heru...Maat, I can sympathize with your sentiment, even though it was stated facetiously (I think). I think it would be natural for a parent to have feelings of anger toward the homosexual partner (Did this sexual psychopath do anything vile/perverted to my child?, etc.). As a matter of fact, it would worry me if any parent would NOT have such feelings/worries at SOME point.

I also share your sentiment, Pharaoh Jah.

i'd love the mess out of them. My seed being homosexual would do nothing to me really. God is the final judge. If my seed is grown and I've done everything in my power to raise him/her right....My only job is to love my child period. If my son/daughter is happy with their lover...I'd have to love the lover also. Sounds crazy, but there is no other way for me.

*glad this is just hypothetical*

I love my daughter a lot. I would have to sit and talk to her, and try to understand if she is truly homosexual or just going through a phase of some sort. She is my flesh and blood and will not be disowned.

My kid is my kid. As much as I would love to see him follow my way of life, it's not up to me. He's responsible for his own soul on the Last Day. So, yeah, I'd talk to him, continue to love him.... and pray for him.

I just shoot em some condoms and tell em to play it safe.

I'd tell them I still loved them, and then I would explain to them the difficulties they would be facing and make sure they knew what they'd be up against in a closed minded society. I'd make sure they knew they could come to me if they had any trouble. I wouldn't like it, but hey....you just don't stop loving people.

I've read through all the responses on this thread and can not believe what I'm reading! Most of the posters here feel that they would "sit down and talk" to their hypothetically homosexual child; some even said that they would "pray" for their children...how ridiculous. Ok, I understand you guys all love your children and wish to 'love them unconditionally' (as all good parents should), but...what the F**K?!!! If my child told me that he/she was gay...it's OVER for me and that child. I don't play that b.s!! I aint tryin' to sit down and understand nothin'...we're done!!! If anything, I would try to find out who the hell molested my child when he/she was younger—because in most cases, homosexuality (and other deviant sexual behaviors) stems from the psychological trauma which the practitioner of the 'lifestyle' was subjected to (as a result of some kind of abuse) when younger—and deal with which ever pervert had the nerve to lay their hands on my child.

This may sound harsh, but it has to be done. I feel that the reason why the Black community is the way that it is, is because we take the line of least resistance, like treating this homosexuality issue (and others) with kid gloves. This kind of behavior must NEVER be tolerated in our community. Neither should sexual predators like R. Kelly—whose disgusting behavior is why children grow up feeling confused and emotionally and psychologically traumatized—be accepted in our community. As far as I'm concerned he deserves to die for the crimes he committed against those young children. I don't care HOW big of a celebrity he is!!! And ohh...don't even get me started about Michael.

Peace.

-mom, dad I have something to tell you? YEAH RIGHT. As soon as he or she finished talking? I'd go AND I HAVE SOMETHING TO TELL YOU TOO...YOU MAY WANT TO SIT DOWN FOR THIS! SEE? I'M NOT REALLY YOUR MOTHER AND THAT DUDE OVER THERE? HE'S NOT REALLY YOUR DADDY EITHER. YOU'VE JUST BEEN PUNKED! AND YOU'RE ON CANDID CAMERA! AND TO TOP IT OFF? I'M CUTTING YOU OUT OF THE WILL! THE FAMILY GREMLIN WITH THE BAD STARTER? GOES TO YOUR BROTHER! AND SEE, YOU 'DON MESSED UP CAUSE WE WAS 'GON PUT SOME RIMS ON THAT FOR YOU!!!! LOOK WHAT YOU'VE DONE! - THEN I'D PROBABLY BREAK DOWN AND HAVE A STROKE. -CAUSE NO MOTHER WANTS A GAY SON?! (SWEETBROWNSUGARGOTJOKES)

1. What would you do if your son/daughter told you they were homosexuals.

1. kick them out
2. Ask them if there was something you had done
3. Cry and ask them why
4. Sit still, think and ask them to talk


To me this question is like asking what will you do when you die. The simple answer is you'll be dead. The hopeful answer is go to heaven and be with God. The realistic answer is you don't know. Unlike death you can't prepare for your child's gay coming out. It's something I don't think about. But I do check for signs. I'm probably goin out on a limb when I say this but I know my son is not gay. How do I know this you ask? Because without me saying anything we were watching tv and a Jerry Springer commercial came on with two men kissing. It grossed him out little but it puzzled him even more. He said "daddy how could two men kiss or even dress in woman clothes or act like a girl?" He said these things at a young age. So that told me he understood his masculinity enough to know what natural male behavior was. So until I have another child this question will not be relevent to me.

Peace

Radical Faith

Option #4

Queenie :spinstar:

Option #5 Give em Condoms and Tell em to Play it Safe.

-mom, dad I have something to tell you? YEAH RIGHT. As soon as he or she finished talking? I'd go AND I HAVE SOMETHING TO TELL YOU TOO...YOU MAY WANT TO SIT DOWN FOR THIS! SEE? I'M NOT REALLY YOUR MOTHER AND THAT DUDE OVER THERE? HE'S NOT REALLY YOUR DADDY EITHER. YOU'VE JUST BEEN PUNKED! AND YOU'RE ON CANDID CAMERA! AND TO TOP IT OFF? I'M CUTTING YOU OUT OF THE WILL! THE FAMILY GREMLIN WITH THE BAD STARTER? GOES TO YOUR BROTHER! AND SEE, YOU 'DON MESSED UP CAUSE WE WAS 'GON PUT SOME RIMS ON THAT FOR YOU!!!! LOOK WHAT YOU'VE DONE! - THEN I'D PROBABLY BREAK DOWN AND HAVE A STROKE. -CAUSE NO MOTHER WANTS A GAY SON?! (SWEETBROWNSUGARGOTJOKES)

:lol: @ you won't be gett'n da famblee gremlin ... hahahaha ... oh gosh!

i love it!

(keepdasweetbrownsugarjokescomingplease!)

:heart:

Destee

This is a good poll.
I would pick sit still,think, let them talk, hug them afterwards,accept them for who they are. It's my child, they came from me or even if they were adopted I would still be the same way. I believe in unconditional love, no one or what lifestyle they chose or what society and religions say is right or wrong could sway that. :hearts2:

1. What would you do if your son/daughter told you they were homosexuals.

1. kick them out
2. Ask them if there was something you had done
3. Cry and ask them why
4. Sit still, think and ask them to talk

Option #1!! No discussion.