Help someone please! This is causing a heated debate between me and my best friend. First of all she's involved with a married man. She's 22 and he's 30. He doesn't come around until late at night. He never takes her anywhere, ever! Annnnnd when they have sex he doesn't use protection. She doesn't ask him too anyway. She says that he's 'clean' and he told her that he'd been 'fixed'. I'm saying all of this because I think it's gross. Who knows who his wife is messing around with if she is? Plus aint no telling how many other 'outside' women he has. She gets upset when I talk about it to her so I haven't said anything. Ladies/fellas someone help me and tell me what to do. Of course adultery is wrong. I still say that he doesn't respect her or her body if he wants to have unprotected sex. Sorry so long, just got to get this off of my chest.


Dubbs

Sounds like old boy is running a game on your friend. She is having his cake and eating it too. She cannot just take his word that he's "clean". A lot of folks think they are clean only to find that years later that they were in fact "dirty". Not only that, why must she kick it with a brutha that's married??? Is she insecure of having a man that's unattached, or is she just out looking for sex? either case the advantage is with old boy....Also he's taking a chance...she might be fixed but how can he be sure that she's clean? One must consider all factors when entering this type of relationship. Not only is he disrespecting your friend and his wife, your friend is disrespecting herself along with his wife. This is not a good situation at all. If she refuses to listen to her friend, then you may just have to let the chips fall where they may, but in the event of a broken heart or worse make sure you're there to help her get through this.

she lost her mind ..............this guy taking her down
safe sex , protection but why she can't get a single guy
and to think he's married have a wife and she just a
sexual play mate for him
u can't save her but u can let her know that's all u can do
your friend need to think a bit more on it and protect her self
never know what someone has now days
i feel sorry for her and the way she think !

I've decided to be there for her. I decided to do that a while ago but it's just so hard. I don't want to see her get hurt. She still dates other men but still. You know what I mean? To me it's a dead end. It will never be nothing more than physical. I don't know. I'm just going to keep my peace and listen.

Well people are going to have unprotected sex. I heard a guy say that if it is his girlfriend he shouldn't have to use protection...I think it's stupid, but to my suprise a lot of men think like that...I kow married people that use protection...but also understand that your friend is grown and if she want to do that she will and tell you what you want to hear in order to get you offher back.