I have been wondering lately if it is still worth having children in this dying world. I mean there might be a third world war coming up where we will all be part of and the question is, is such a world a good place for chhildren? And what about the discriminatationn the child might suffer on? And did you know that 60 % of all girls has at least 1 experience of sexual abuse or such (rape)? I would like people's opinion on this one....:( :(

weel, I got that info from statistics at school, and what even more shocking is that every female person in my life has experienced suh a thing. And it variates from rape to beeing kissed or touched without you wanting it it happend, believe me. Maybe statistics said 30 % about 50 years ago when it was still taboo to talk about such things out in the open. But now as you must know things are diffrent both girls, and grown women are coming forward with there experiences. And that is not even all there are worst things in life a newborn child eventually will have to deal with...

This is a cruel world and it is not an easy one. I am all for 2 responsible adults having kids. The problem ascribe from the so called parents who let their children run around out of control. I have a 12 year old cousin who is boy crazy. She is already wearing little skirts, it does not help that her mother (recently divorced) is wearing them too. I brought her a book, Jubilee, to read for her to see the real struggles of a sistah. She willnot read it. She is trying to read the books her mother has like,
"Maintenance Man", "Addicted", and other explicit books. If you do have kids I hope they grow up to be sucessful. When one more sistah or brotha comes up, we all come up!

My point is: It isn't 30% I wish it was! But it isn't that is all. Even in the 90s it could have been 30 % unless those statistics whre about a certain group of people.

it is our purpose in nature to procreate. otherwise life wouldn't go on.

while i can relate to the issue of sexual abuse and molestation, that doesn't define life. it just one of those ugly things that happens.

but is it worth having children if you cannot give them what they need?

How can we fully appreciate the positives without knowing the negatives? Life is beautiful & the young are responsible of change. It's an issue we all can be cautious about, but it isn't new. It's just being focused on in the media.

Hello Glorius Star and Egyptos ... Welcome

Hello Everyone

If you can handle the pain of childbirth and the life long obligation
everything else is icing on da cake.

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Destee

yes it's worth it ......i agree with destee

I think being a parent is wonderful. One must that it is a great responsibility and live up to that responsibility.

What do you think the consequences would be if we stopped having children? :eek:

well after a while, existence in itself would die off, we can't be without children, they are our future without them, humanity itself would crumble

wouldn't it be better for humanity to crumble and eventually disappear? I mean in that way no one would feel and see how hard life can be

Originally posted by Glorious Star
wouldn't it be better for humanity to crumble and eventually disappear? I mean in that way no one would feel and see how hard life can be

Ok. This is my final reply to this thread. Glorious Star...do you happen to work in the Pentagon? At first when I read your comment, I started to ask you whether you were sane, but then I realized that people in the current administration could possibly think like this. Whoa!!!

So, in the event you are serious in the way you think, I hope something happens real soon to help you to change your opinion and on a more positive level.

Peace!

Originally posted by Glorious Star
wouldn't it be better for humanity to crumble and eventually disappear? I mean in that way no one would feel and see how hard life can be why take all of humanity with you ... this can be achieved on an individual basis ...

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Destee

I just recently had a discussion about having children later on with my sister and we came to one conclusion that have children is somethingt you do because it is might be good for you but not for the child. And I don't mean that no parent in the world takes good care of their children but I just mean: Why bring someone in the world that might suffer just so you can enjoy fatherhood or motherhood? Isn't it better to adopt? To help the children who are already there?

nope--don't do it!!!

go to college, get a good job, make your money and live YOUR life and have YOUR fun.

don't bring someone else here to suffer in this cruel, sick and sad world.

If its such a cruel sick sad world, what is the point of YOU getting a good job, and YOU making good money, and what fun would YOU be having?

If its such a cruel sick sad world, why not have children to enjoy benefits of all this money YOU would be making from YOUR good job, and why not allow the children the same opportunity acheive the same while having all this fun YOU would be having?

Chiggidy check yoself, before you wriggidy wreck yoself, cause encouraging Afrikan people to disrupt the natural order of life is bad fo ya health.

Hello TruBlu and welcome to our forum! I said that I wouldn't post to this thread again but I saw you are new and wanted to welcome you here. Your advice to us to be selfish and to discontinue having children is suicidal for our people, don't you think?

I understand how some Black people's point of view can get pretty grim given how we are often treated but what GOOD do you think will come of us if we don't continue to bring our babies into this world? I don't quite understand the logic behind self-destructive motivations and partying and having a good time as we voluntarily destroy ourselves and our future as a people.

Glorious Star...do you and your sister truly believe that it's better to adopt children that are already here as opposed to giving birth to our own? Sure, adoption is an admirable and worthwhile thing to do, but tell me, what purpose does it serve in and of itself if we stop having more babies? This suggestion sends conflicting messages.

Your question is, "Is it still worth having children?" and I still say and firmly believe that it is not only worth it, but absolutely essential to our survival in the present and the future. Some might believe that this is a sick, sad and cruel world we live in, but to suggest that we adopt a defeatist attitude, lay down and give up, is a weak position to take, in my opinion. We should be THANKFUL that our ancestors didn't take what you are suggesting as an alternative to an oppressive system because if they had, you wouldn't be here today to ask this question.

Some of us need to stop feeling sorry for ourselves and thinking like weak people. Learn how to become more warrior-like. If there's something going on in this world that you don't like, stand up and fight against it and keep pressing on by building our community. "Don't give up, don't ever give up!" But if all else fails and you want to give up anyway, then do it, stop whining about it and move out of the other people's way who want to survive and thrive.

Peace.

I think its worth it
Children are such a blessing
Some of us take that for granted
Yet I cant wait until the day I have mine
I feel like I have chilled and partyed as much as I can
Well maybe not but I know I can handle it
Yes this world is cruel-Yes we have to be precautious
But when its my time I will be happier than life itself