How much should a guy spend on an engagement ring for his lady? I read some where that a guy should spend like 2 or 3 months salary, or maybe that was probably just a cat who sells rings. I think that the price of the ring should not matter too much because it is more symbolic but donot want to be a cheapskate. What about things start to go sour and she does not want to give the ring back! You know she just going to pawn it anyway. Now the guy is left with a whole in his bank account.

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I would think that it depends on things that only you are privy too ... such as ... how much you can afford, what type of ring you want her to have and what kind of ring she wants. It's a personal choice. Some people have no great interest in diamonds and gold. Some may be happy with a gold band and of course there are those that will not settle for anything less than the biggest diamond in the store. I've never heard that a man should spend 2-3 months salary on the engagement ring, until now. The two of you should make this decision together, trying to consider all things.

Most young couples planning marriage have a host of expenses and should be reasonable with all purchases. If God blesses and your lives together are long, the opportunity and financial ability to easily buy her a bigger and better ring will be an option in later years.

If you do give her an engagement ring ... and the wedding is called off ... you can insist on the return of it. I think a court would uphold your request, perhaps depending on the reason the "agreement" was not fulfilled (at least that's what happens on Judge Mathis). Of course this is extreme and hopefully the two of you would be able to part in the same loving and reasonable manner you came together.

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I think a $2500 ring is acceptable. At least, I'd accept it.

The Diamond companies pumped up the two to three months salary to sell diamonds...too often we let outside influences affect our decision-making. Go with what you like, not what others feel you should have. I think a gold band is beautiful, especially if the couple has matching bands.

now a price is of da heart u pose for your mate
and reality of it has a lot to do with the pocket
base on what's best at that time
it's not the size of the diamond but the warmth it brings
to a mates heart
some love a band with chips of diamonds some love the 1/2 diamond
but remember you are the buyer the mate so don't let other
tell you what's best or what ya mate would want
the price for it is up to your pocket & what u can buy
love is priceless if he or she love u then the amount don't
matter

I wouldn't care if my "ring" was a tattoo...as long as his committment to me was strong. I don't really wear much jewlery as it is...but sometimes I feel rings and wedding are only for show.

Whatever he chooses to spend on the ring is fine with me. If I know he picked it out, and he liked it - I'm cool with it.

Spend as much as you can afford, and no more than that. It doesn't make sense to me to break the bank on a wedding ring (or the wedding itself). Save the money for the house & the kids.

i am dropping a cool 20,000 to 250,000 for my wedding set which consists of:

A Platinum Diamond Ring
Platinum Diamond Earrings
Platinum Diamond Necklace
Platinum Diamond Bracelet
Platinum Diamond Toe Rings, Belly Chain and Anklets

If she cheat she die. joke :-)

i am dropping a cool 20,000 to 250,000 for my wedding set

If she cheat she die. joke :-)


If she cheat....you'll die, when you think about the $250,000 rolling around in your head, ...instead of your pocket :laugh: :laugh: ...joke

I wouldn't care if my "ring" was a tattoo...as long as his committment to me was strong. I don't really wear much jewlery as it is...but sometimes I feel rings and wedding are only for show.

Whatever he chooses to spend on the ring is fine with me. If I know he picked it out, and he liked it - I'm cool with it.



Well said...I totally agree, for he need only to wear his "heart"...around my finger.

Destee and that dang Judge Mathis. smh quit it woman....your obsession is getting out of hand. :lol:

I think the whole wedding ring thing is corny. I'd rather do something that we both agree is special without having tradition play a part in it. Carrie....the tatoo idea is interesting. :jumping: I don't know about that though...tatoos are permanent. Either way, go with what you can handle because it's only for show...just like the whole ceremony. I definately would not spend even a month's salary on a ring.

I don't know about that though...tatoos are permanent

I would hope my marriage is permanent as well.

I would hope my marriage is permanent as well.

Very true. ;) That would be a cool idea instead of rings.

today it's hard to say if anything is forever
i most def would do what's best for us both
and not stress my pocket or mind

i am dropping a cool 20,000 to 250,000 for my wedding set which consists of:

A Platinum Diamond Ring
Platinum Diamond Earrings
Platinum Diamond Necklace
Platinum Diamond Bracelet
Platinum Diamond Toe Rings, Belly Chain and Anklets

If she cheat she die. joke :-)
go ahead big balla. 20,000 dollars don't buy a happy marriage though brother.

I would hope (if I wanted to buy an overly expensive ring) the woman I was with would be the type to say "baby, I don't need that huge rock. Let's used the money to build a better future for our family". That's the type of woman I want. Someone who would rather stretch $10,000 or $20,000 instead of wearing it on her finger. Hey, a guy can dream can't he. :spin: I think I would :puke2: if I bought something that expensive and they hand me a small box. Then on top of that I have to give it away. :cuss: What a world....what a world.

I don’t think it matters the cost, just don’t turn my hand green…:lol:

It is what the ring symbolize, unity love forever ness.
Love is priceless. A ring is material.
Actions speak louder then words or anything you can buy me.

But to buy is up to you, no matter the size of the diamond
It can never bring and share the love two ppl have for each other
And if your pockets are that deep, I guess go for it…
To each they own.

But like I said actions speaks louder then any price of a ring!!!

Thas my 2 cent....Angel :)

I tell you what, my 1st engagement ring was small. It was gold with dainty nuggets on the side and a diamond chip on top. I was 19 years old and I loved that ring to death. In fact, I picked it out and it was like $250.00. And our bands were simple textured gold bands, with an inscription on the inside. My second engagement ring was bigger, very, very pretty, and cost about $2500. A month after getting the ring, we broke up under very nasty circumstances. His other fiancee, yes, you read right, had a ring of about the same weight. We talked. :spin: Aparently his pockets were deeper than I knew. :jawdrop: I didn't give him the ring back, he left a note asking for it one time. I told him I earned it. I was faithful and held up my end. I lost the ring a few months after that, and was trying to find it everywhere when an older woman in my office said to me, "It was the wrong ring and the wrong man." That made me feel so much lighter and I realized she was right.

I would prefer a ring that had some love behind it. I don't want or need a ring that I might get jacked for. I'm not trying to break anyone's pockets. Besides, how would I look sporting that ring and I meet someone else that I was crazy about? I'm sure he wouldn't appreciate it.

The wedding is gone cost at least 100,000 we doing it big. I am proposing to my folks at either the TImes Square on live TV or at a quiet quaint place.

I am not trying to buy happiness, I am just going to be breaking bread for my first lady, she will be my first commitment, first girlfriend and first wife and for that I am doing it big, emotionally, spiritually, mentally and finacially.

The wedding is gone cost at least 100,000 we doing it big. I am proposing to my folks at either the TImes Square on live TV or at a quiet quaint place.

I am not trying to buy happiness, I am just going to be breaking bread for my first lady, she will be my first commitment, first girlfriend and first wife and for that I am doing it big, emotionally, spiritually, mentally and finacially.


aaaaaww ..Manaisac, d@m..that was deeply felt :crying: I always said that you were special and I knew you weren't :nono: the muscle head and heart you tried hard to be...I luv you a lot, and some special lady will one day be the luckiest woman in the world.

I still am the evil muscle head, just a balance between the two Queen.

do ya'll think marraige is overrated?
being that the numbers are low on those that do last..... is it all cut out to be wat people think?

do ya'll think marraige is overrated?
being that the numbers are low on those that do last..... is it all cut out to be wat people think?

I think this would be a great thread in itself, but I do think marriage is overrated. IMO