i have heard so many women say how important it is to please your man sexually. they say that if you don't do it somebody else will... question? you're in a relationship and your partner wants a menage a tois... would you do it?

another thing... i have noticed that people have a double standard about threesome's. a threesome is three people. so why do people consider a threesome two women and one man but when there are two men and one woman they call it "a train." question? what's up with that?

first of all if one's mate love from da heart then their would not be
a threesome of any kind my answer is NO!
as labled for years when two ladies take on one man it's a feast
of mix oral sexul connection
but as we know the threesome turns into a train when two men
clash wit one female she then become da sex object of lustful
bliss as they take turns rockin her inner beings
many years ago threesome was labled as a train and it carried
into this time we stand .....
two lover can please each other without the third party
when 3 become part it's not safe nor clean
NO!
NO!
NO!

i agree with you. in a relationship, such a decision can turn into a tragedy. my babe knows better... i am not the one! actually, i'm glad that stuff like that turns him off...

indeed coz dis threesome thang is worng & yes a big turn off
forgive me but what would i do with two ladies four legs four
tits two back sides and two mid feasta a total of 14 parts
no way !
when it comes to love all i need is one
no third party

If your partner wants this, run! He is not committed to you nor has your best interests at heart.

c'mon peoples..
this is a new age of time...
i honestly do not see anything wrong
with havin a 3 some...
if both people in a couple have np problem with it, then i say do you..
but if thats not the case, then you dont...hey, and at the same time you may realize that maybe that person who you are with isn't the right one 4 you..
my partner has a problem wit that...
do i complain---no...
i respect her doubts and concern, so i dont push it...u kno...
but if she was down then shhhh!!y not?
thats just my opinion..
i mean i kno theres alot of risks involved--but when ya feelin sexual-and everybody is down-then ga head...git ur freak on!!lol
i'm sure people are mature enuff to deal with the consequences afterwords...


one

i don't have a problem with it, i just don't wanna and i am the one to do close to anything to keep my man satisfied... but it aint going down like that... it's cool for others but not cool for me...

I ain't having it!!
not cool it's wrong & Nasty!
one's heart of love should be of one
when playing the threesome game
only dis-comfort & shame comes to blame
calling names what a shame
no no no!!!

LOVE DA ONE U WIT
if he or she wants this mythful unsafe thang u better
run fast and don't look back coz the heart is cold
da love is raw
and thangz crawl
NO NO NO !!!!
wrong thing to do is threesome **** !

i know rich.... i'm cool and my man already knows better!

it's all good now go on and love da one ya wit!!!

hmmm after pondering, I would ask myself...

Am I in a Relationship or just dating...does he/she see it that way?

It's a helluva a difference, I would imagine since I haven't done this, for a married couple and buck wild 20 somethings drunk at a frat party!

When I was a younger I would say yes to a threesome but now that I am older and know about the consequences that can happend. For instances, if I get one of the ladies pregnant that is 25% of my pay check before taxes, then I will have to pay medical and health care! All I need is one good sistah and who is not affraid to go down town. Dealing with one woman is expensive enough for me.

Oh boy-----what a question! Honestly I have to say depending on the mate I am with I might consider a threesome. Call it this Scorpio's lusty curiousity and sexual confidence--but the idea is very mentally stimulating. In reality, I can be a very jealous and possessive creature when it comes to something I consider mine----I don't like to share food, and certainly not my man! LOL, we all have fantasies, but it is one thing to play it out and another to keep it confined to the mind.

HMmm...

If my woman wanted a threesome I would have to consider the strength of our relationship and our ability to communicate honestly. If I am not pleasing my woman, I would like to do so. If that is what its going to take, then I would be selfish and foolish not to consider it.

Dre', your response was brief and too the point. I admire you for being able to put it so succinctly. As you can tell, I analyze things to death and this is no different! *lol*

I've never personally been faced with a situation where I've ever had to deal with that question before. Interestingly, I saw a movie recently which dealt with this very same issue and it caused me to think about what I would do if my man wanted me to participate in a "3-some." What shocked me is I wasn't horrifically opposed to the idea. However, when I was younger, I think would have been. Not sure what that means.

But, there are so many variables to consider in something like this. Jealousy issues...moral issues...health/safety issues, can the relationship sustain itself under the pressure of the morning after. Living in a nation that promotes monogamous relationships between one man and one woman, and frowns on anything other than that, this is not an easy question to answer.

I liked what Legacy21 and Dre' had to say. I can relate to both perspectives and I tend to flip-flop somewhere between the two. I'm a firm believer that people will often do things they ordinarily wouldn't if the circumstances are right.

Honestly speaking, there are certain circumstances where I would give serious consideration to a "3-some" but there would be so many ground rules that it might not be worth it in the end and make it seem more like work rather than fun. But I would consider it.

But, it would have to be more than just curiousity or the ONLY way my man could be stimulated sexually. Too much is at risk to do something just out of curiousity alone and if that's the only way my man can enjoy sex, then he needs a therapist and not me giving him permission to feed into that issue.

Conditionally speaking, the triangle could not include another man.

That is so true about the threesome/train issue...LOL.
I think that b/s about "if you dont please him someone will" is a bunch of crap...to me it seems like an easy scapegoat for a man to justify his cheating or some mess...Crapola...if he is man enough to commit then he should be man enough to tell you that you are not handling your business, or should be man enough to leave you alone. Forget all that threesome crap...let another woman or man into your bed and then when your husbands cheats with with either one then you will feel super stupid.

good point sexe1. i didn't think that this subject would get so much response.

No, I wouldn't engage in a menage a trois. I don't believe in more than two people having sex together.

I couldn't enage in a treesome. To me, ssex is for two, and I mean, two people. All that mess with a treesome is liable to spread some STDs and have more people in the world messed up.

People we are in the year 2003 about to be
2004 and I am saying now **** if you dont do
the **** then they would find somone else to do it with
and drop your ***.... So I would really consider all the
facts of our realationship then decide off of that for
instance if my realtaionship is based on sex the hell yeah i'd do
it but if the person sayin they love me and the wanting to add another person then I am saying I must not be doing somthing right so I would tell them they need to find somone
to do them right


Holla

BZ05,

While I appreciate your sharing of your opinion, please remember to respect the forum rules, and refrain from using all the expletives. This is a Family place, Luv. Just for future reference. And welcome to the Palace.

Nia

Lovemaking is for two (2). Manage a Deux!

If my Man should request a Manage a trois, at least one of two possibilities would be clear to me. Either he wants to take another woman to bed :jawdrop: :hot:, or he wants to take another man to bed :eeek::puke::nono::nono::nono::puke2::uzi:.

I personally don't want another woman in my bed with me for sexual activity, and I don't need more than one man in my bed.


LMAO @ "and thangz crawl". $$RICH$$ness, you :nuts: need :help:

Nia:heart:

Im a Gemini so evertime I'm with a woman It's a 3 some LOL
Holla Holla Holla........(huh) I know ya'll didn't expect a different anser from me!

LMAO @ thangz crawl ...smh Rich

Python you just got issues...:lol:

anyway i dont want no woman in my bed...
i dont share!!! aint gone share!!!

and i dont need two men in my bed...
its just NASTY!!!!!!

so my answer would be
NO
NO
NO
MOVE OUT!!!!!

my woman friend introduced me to the idea back in the day and we had quite a few pleasurable experiences.

you should never, ever do something because your partner wants you to.
you should do it because YOU want to.

i want a partner, not a slave. :love:

Im a Gemini so evertime I'm with a woman It's a 3 some LOL
Holla Holla Holla........(huh) I know ya'll didn't expect a different anser from me!


You got some issues! :roll:

I don't like sharing plain and simple. I think my sex drive is pretty high...should be high enough to keep him tired.

I'm pretty selfish too......actually stingy..that's a better word to describe me. I don't want to see anyone lickin' or stickin' my lady. Many guys love the idea or another woman with their girl but not me. I can't be with a woman that wants sex with another woman or another man. I'm not that open minded. :mad:

two people of the same sex having intercourse makes me sick to my stomach...I don't know why men think it's erotic for two women to be together.

two people of the same sex having intercourse makes me sick to my stomach...I don't know why men think it's erotic for two women to be together.

I just think guys like the idea of seeing double T&A. They don't think about the consequences of the action. JMO. I don't see the appeal. Even if I brought up the idea...and my lady said she's down....I'd leave her for cheating on me.

two people of the same sex having intercourse makes me sick to my stomach
sick?, how can what two others do affect you so?

I'm with James on this one here...as long as you're doing it because it's something you want to do then get to getting it.....I would .. as long as the two women are only playmates of mine and only with two women....I know it's not fair but whoever said I was fair....

Mississippi Red
:devil:

James,
What I mean is... on occasion I do enjoy watching porn. I don't want to watch two women together, it does not turn me on...but for some reason men think we women get off on that. They don't seem to want to watch two men together...I'm sure it's for the same reason.

I could not imagine putting my face between a woman's legs...the thought alone does make me sick. :puke:

James,
What I mean is... on occasion I do enjoy watching porn. I don't want to watch two women together, it does not turn me on...but for some reason men think we women get off on that. They don't seem to want to watch two men together...I'm sure it's for the same reason.

I could not imagine putting my face between a woman's legs...the thought alone does make me sick. :puke:
i have about six different responses but this time i think I'll shut my mouth. :grin:

:tongue3: Personally now, I would never ever share my man 'cause I love him too much. But back in my younger days i would've been open to it....only if i wasn't emotionally attached to any of the participants....i know it's just plain ol' nasty but hey, that's where i was mentally in my nasty lil' past-life!


Just chillin'n'ma b-boy stance! :dance1:

If you are going to do it because you want to do it then you must expect that the other participants will do what they want to do too. It's not realistic to go in there thinking that you can say okay I'll do it with you but you can't do it with each other. You may try to agree before hand about ground rules but you are already dealing with people whose mindset is if it feels good do it so who is to say that once they get in there and their bodies start touching they won't just go for it and who the h-e double toothpick are you to have a problem with something they want to do?

No baby, if he's like I gotta do it or someone else will then I will be like someone else is going to have to because I will not. It's not about what year this is or what age we are in. There are still only two genders on Earth.

If you are going to do it because you want to do it then you must expect that the other participants will do what they want to do too. It's not realistic to go in there thinking that you can say okay I'll do it with you but you can't do it with each other. You may try to agree before hand about ground rules but you are already dealing with people whose mindset is if it feels good do it so who is to say that once they get in there and their bodies start touching they won't just go for it and who the h-e double toothpick are you to have a problem with something they want to do?

and you know all this, how?
are you talking theory or direct experience?

when i make a post it is because i have been there and done that.
can you say the same?

AN honest answer might be:
A. ONly do it with strangers - never people you love.
B. ONly do it if you can survive the consequences.
C. Do it if you have a strong desire to.
D. Leave it alone... let it remain a fantasy. :juggle:

i once had so many people on my bed that the bed frame broke.
scared the wee out of me.

it must have been a sign from God to stop doing what we were doing! :slobber:

i once had so many people on my bed that the bed frame broke.
scared the wee out of me.

it must have been a sign from God to stop doing what we were doing! :slobber:


you almost made me choke :nuts:

Never should you do this nassy thing very germy! yuk
can u see ya self diving in after another one and she didn't even
get up to wash , dush or P....... and can u see ya self bouncing
on him after her or placing ya face their yuk ! stuff rub off crawls
bites and catchy count me out if my mate wanted that i will not
fear the MYTH of if you don't somebody else will stuff coz i'm gonna
give her the boot anyway i'm a freak but to one and what i do only she
will know and feel

by the way ain't no two women gonna be spanking on me together or
any other wild crap .....lol

one woman man a devoted lover to one the play game can blow up
and today it will do just that blow right off if it's hit by the fu fu bug !
mixing tides bring cross tama-na-tion bodly and it's nassy sweating
funk of germs threesome is a loser game to play or inner act in
BEWARE of the DEATH trap Ahead ...........................................

Never should you do this nassy thing very germy! yuk
can u see ya self diving in after another one and she didn't even
get up to wash , dush or P....... and can u see ya self bouncing
on him after her or placing ya face their yuk ! stuff rub off crawls
bites and catchy count me out if my mate wanted that i will not
fear the MYTH of if you don't somebody else will stuff coz i'm gonna
give her the boot anyway i'm a freak but to one and what i do only she
will know and feel

by the way ain't no two women gonna be spanking on me together or
any other wild crap .....lol

one woman man a devoted lover to one the play game can blow up
and today it will do just that blow right off if it's hit by the fu fu bug !
mixing tides bring cross tama-na-tion bodly and it's nassy sweating
funk of germs threesome is a loser game to play or inner act in
BEWARE of the DEATH trap Ahead ...........................................

$RICH$ .. you had me dying... but.. what you said is all true... BOUNDARIES are important. :whip: :tennis:

you know IntuitioninMD it can be a real bust and deadly to cross sex in a fold
of threesome , i love sex but i love me more .......word up !

you know IntuitioninMD it can be a real bust and deadly to cross sex in a fold
of threesome , i love sex but i love me more .......word up !

One of my ex-boyfriends asked me to be in a threesome with him and his BESTFRIEND... I looked at him.. with a pitiful smile. I knew that he did not know exactly what he was asking me. I told him... If I hated you.... I would probably do it and.. be like.. now .. I only want your BESTFRIEND to destroy your ego.

So of course we did not do it. I try to encourage all of my friends to have boundaries or be prepared to deal with the consequences of your actions.

So ... I guess you are against SWINGING CLUBS TOO.???? LOL

You know.. I would rather a person get it OUT of their system though before getting in a relationship with me. I would ask them – in a very NON JUDGEMENTAL way --- tell me your deepest FANTASIES? For me… that is how I find.. out… what that person wants to do… and what they probably at some point and time in life.. will do.
:devil:

I know of situations where friendships and marriages were destroyed because of the "threesome".

so true sista many have been taken on this ride of no return !

naw no way NO CLUBS swinging only club swinging is me
we all have a deep inside fantasy or a extreme dream but threesomes
not one of mines .......yuk !
to me sex is more then body mixing or fun out of passion

I bet your ex looked at you like girl what's up we doing this or what like him and his
buddy was going to have fun and talk about it the next day to the world if he like that
stuff then it send a warning lable .....( DON'T TOUCH IT' S HOT)

I know of situations where friendships and marriages were destroyed because of the "threesome".
wimps!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :slobber:

James it's nassy man !
this kind of stuff do hurt marriages i've seen it happen !

wimps!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :slobber:

Real funny....

In all honesty... ......... lol...

When people talk about it.. if I am talking to a woman that is considering it... I tell her.. that it COULD be a very selfish situation on the man's part.... so if you do it... make sure 2 people are men.....

I have noticed this bias... where men would want to do it... but with 2 women --- but... with 2 men... they think the woman is CRAZY.

So.... I have been told.. that it could be a very dangerous situation. Especially - if you are really sensitive about your body and how you perform sexually. :spank:

James it's nassy man !
this kind of stuff do hurt marriages i've seen it happen !
no one should enter the deep end of the pool unless they are sure that they can handle their business. :peace:

ya right ..........but i know of people who just act out a fantasy or desire not
sure what to feel or what they may see happen but once into it they become
un- fun and feeling get in the way they feel betrayed and misused to a point
but most of all they forget it's str8 Nassy and germmy.......yuk !

for a single person this might be okay. I can't be all that objective, for in my younger days I discoverd that from a physical perspective, anything past four women at a time is physically confusing. The body can only take but so much sensation in various areas at one time and still enjoy it.

This thread reminds me of one I created a while back...what if your mate wanted you to do a sexual activity pertinent to their sexual happiness but one you thought was immoral.

Anyway, I voted no to this because I think is immoral in a committed relationship. But where is the line of sexual morality drawn? Some think oral is immoral, even though it is mainstream in American culture. Same with anal or even having regular intercourse in a different position.

This is why it's important to discuss sexual fantasies/desires before serious committment is made. If something has to be done to please someone sexually that the other party disagrees with, then it's best the couple not be together if a compromise cannot be made.

This thread reminds me of one I created a while back...what if your mate wanted you to do a sexual activity pertinent to their sexual happiness but one you thought was immoral.

Anyway, I voted no to this because I think is immoral in a committed relationship. But where is the line of sexual morality drawn? Some think oral is immoral, even though it is mainstream in American culture. Same with anal or even having regular intercourse in a different position.

This is why it's important to discuss sexual fantasies/desires before serious committment is made. If something has to be done to please someone sexually that the other party disagrees with, then it's best the couple not be together if a compromise cannot be made.

That's true, there are different levels of immorality depending on who you're talking to. My advice though is, if you are in a relationship with someone that has the urge to have sex with someone else, you might want to rethink that relationship. I'm not talking about attraction, but wanting to put that attraction into action is a problem IMO.

is there actually anyone out there who is asking to do a menage?
why get upset over something that is less likely to happen than black reparations?

I haven't read the thread but I can't believe any woman would be fine with giving their man a menage trois. Not many men would want to get into bed or share their woman with other men. You might as well just marry other people too.

I really wish people would stop projecting their sense of "morals" on other people. People in here believe that if everyone doesn't do as they do in a particular situation, then everyone is wrong and immoral.

This isn't about questioning one's morals; this is about questioning one's strength in love of your partner. This is about you being afraid of your partner leaving you.

If a couple's love is strong enough to endure a menage, then it's right for them. If you and your partner can't handle certain sexual acts, then it's not right for you. Has NOTHING to do with morality.

Really need to stop projecting your subconscious fears on everyone else.

why do we like to burn so much energy on something that is NOT happening?
how many people actually encounter this in their lives?

In this day and age, I'd say more than people will admit.........


why do we like to burn so much energy on something that is NOT happening?
how many people actually encounter this in their lives?

In this day and age, I'd say more than people will admit.........

You could not imagine how many.
I've been offered this by couples.
My girlfriends have done it.
If people are into that ,that's their business.'
One too many for me.

three people???heck i'm tryin to figure out how to get my wife outta the room so i can have the bed all to myself.

three people???heck i'm tryin to figure out how to get my wife outta the room so i can have the bed all to myself.

Haha!! :lol:

PEACE

NOT MY STYLE NOR WILL IT EVER BE!
I AM MORE THAN ENOUGH FOR MY MAN AND IF HE ASKED FOR A MENAGE
IT WOULD BE AN INSULT AND HE WOULD HAVE HAD TO HAVE LOST HIS EVER LOVIN MIND STR8 UP
SWEETTEE, LOVE

A long time ago I would have said no and it was absurd to me that some couples went for this this but now I don't know how I'd feel if I was married for a long time and wanted to try something new. It is natural to be sexually attracted to more then one woman, that doesn't negate the love/respect you'd have for your girlfriend/wife.

A long time ago I would have said no and it was absurd to me that some couples went for this this but now I don't know how I'd feel if I was married for a long time and wanted to try something new. It is natural to be sexually attracted to more then one woman, that doesn't negate the love/respect you'd have for your girlfriend/wife.

If a man wants to try something or someone new there are costumes and role playing for that.
Better yet ask your mate to gain weight so it will feel like two people.
Be creative with the one mate you have.

If a man wants to try something or someone new there are costumes and role playing for that.
Better yet ask your mate to gain weight so it will feel like two people.
Be creative with the one mate you have.

That's a good idea but some people may want to take it further.

A_P, then you need to hook-up with someone who wants to take it further. While I have not read all of the links to this discussion, as an African American Man, I would not want to share my “QUEEN” with any other person. To me, that is the ultimate sign of disrespect. Further, I would wonder about the ego-identity of a woman who feels loved by the man who would welcome another into her sacred treasure-trove. Keeping it real, during my “playing days” I have sampled two females simultaneously, and tag-teamed with my boy (FYI it was straight hetero James, I think you know how that threesome works), but I can clearly tell you then and now that though they were lively and “entertaining,” they were not the kind of girls I would want to take home to meet mother.

Now, I couldn’t fathom suggesting or accepting an invitation to such, particularly involving someone with whom I have an emotional/spiritual connection with.

though they were lively and “entertaining,” they were not the kind of girls I would want to take home to meet mother..
so what were you doing up in them? you have here revealed a double standard that belies your efforts to appear enlightened.

A_P, then you need to hook-up with someone who wants to take it further. While I have not read all of the links to this discussion, as an African American Man, I would not want to share my “QUEEN” with any other person. To me, that is the ultimate sign of disrespect. Further, I would wonder about the ego-identity of a woman who feels loved by the man who would welcome another into her sacred treasure-trove. Keeping it real, during my “playing days” I have sampled two females simultaneously, and tag-teamed with my boy (FYI it was straight hetero James, I think you know how that threesome works), but I can clearly tell you then and now that though they were lively and “entertaining,” they were not the kind of girls I would want to take home to meet mother.

Now, I couldn’t fathom suggesting or accepting an invitation to such, particularly involving someone with whom I have an emotional/spiritual connection with.

I never said that I wanted to have a menage trois. If I was in a relationship, I wouldn't be interested in one now but I don't know how I'd feel if I was much older and had been married for a long time.

All I have to say is,

1) why are the girls who had a menage trois in their past not relationship material but you are? and 2) the only things that are disrespectful are something that hurts or humiliates another person, how do you disrespect a woman if she agrees to something or wants it?

I think I should introduce myself before I cut in. I'm Terry of www.terryhowcott.com

The problem with threesomes is the following. Men get sexed up about the idea of two women making love whereas the truth is that the bond between two women emanating from what men think will only be sex is something that has to be respected.

As a Same Gender Loving woman when I had an ad in one of the papers, I got so many responses from women who were wanting to talk with me because their men had encouraged them. I strongly encouraged them against it. And why? Because neither the men nor the women were prepared for what might happen.

Any extra cirrucular sex in a relationship is simply dangerous even if its a womann and two men. If the the third party and one of the partners fall in love - all one can do is take full responsibility for helping the situation along.

Two great women were murdered in Jamaica because a brotha' couldn't ultimately handle what he in fact pushed to have happen.

People gamble, they lose and then they want their money back.

T.H.

I think I should introduce myself before I cut in. I'm Terry of www.terryhowcott.com

The problem with threesomes is the following. Men get sexed up about the idea of two women making love whereas the truth is that the bond between two women emanating from what men think will only be sex is something that has to be respected.

As a Same Gender Loving woman when I had an ad in one of the papers, I got so many responses from women who were wanting to talk with me because their men had encouraged them. I strongly encouraged them against it. And why? Because neither the men nor the women were prepared for what might happen.

Any extra cirrucular sex in a relationship is simply dangerous even if its a womann and two men. If the the third party and one of the partners fall in love - all one can do is take full responsibility for helping the situation along.

Two great women were murdered in Jamaica because a brotha' couldn't ultimately handle what he in fact pushed to have happen.

People gamble, they lose and then they want their money back.

T.H.
hello and welcome to destee.
i have had numerous threesomes in my career without a problem.

hello and welcome to destee.
i have had numerous threesomes in my career without a problem.

in your "career"?

:uhh:


j/k
:laugh:

I think I should introduce myself before I cut in. I'm Terry of www.terryhowcott.com

The problem with threesomes is the following. Men get sexed up about the idea of two women making love whereas the truth is that the bond between two women emanating from what men think will only be sex is something that has to be respected.

As a Same Gender Loving woman when I had an ad in one of the papers, I got so many responses from women who were wanting to talk with me because their men had encouraged them. I strongly encouraged them against it. And why? Because neither the men nor the women were prepared for what might happen.

Any extra cirrucular sex in a relationship is simply dangerous even if its a womann and two men. If the the third party and one of the partners fall in love - all one can do is take full responsibility for helping the situation along.

Two great women were murdered in Jamaica because a brotha' couldn't ultimately handle what he in fact pushed to have happen.

People gamble, they lose and then they want their money back.

T.H.


I agree. This can be dangerous if the relationship is not on solid ground and/or if one is insecure.

in your "career"?
oops.........Freudian slip

:lips: A_P, then you need to hook-up with someone who wants to take it further. While I have not read all of the links to this discussion, as an African American Man, I would not want to share my “QUEEN” with any other person. To me, that is the ultimate sign of disrespect. Further, I would wonder about the ego-identity of a woman who feels loved by the man who would welcome another into her sacred treasure-trove. Keeping it real, during my “playing days” I have sampled two females simultaneously, and tag-teamed with my boy (FYI it was straight hetero James, I think you know how that threesome works), but I can clearly tell you then and now that though they were lively and “entertaining,” they were not the kind of girls I would want to take home to meet mother.

Now, I couldn’t fathom suggesting or accepting an invitation to such, particularly involving someone with whom I have an emotional/spiritual connection with.




Hmmmmmmmmm not the kind of girls to take home to mama.
So than if you agreed to sharing your body with two women who you have no emotional ties to what's so ever, what does that make you?
The kind of guy to take home to daddy?
Hey daddy meet my hot in the pants boyfriend he likes threesomes!!!!!!!:darts:
Just a question boo:smokin:

James, I am not postulating a double standard. It is simply that once-upon-a-life I indulged in certain frivolities of life. That was one out of which I grew.

A_P, it is my experience that in the social dating scene guys and gals approach “sex” from different mindsets. Guys approach it from a conquest, rite of passage, “we are really liking each other” mindset. With females there is trust, emotional bonding/”commitment,” a degree of expectation, and partnership follow-through (i don’t care what you ladies say, you know I’m tell’n the truth). And I may get in trouble for saying this, but I would wager a dollar to a donut that sisters who have had multiple sex partners may be great and accomplished in many areas of their lives, but relationships is not one of them. Conversely, given that the majority of men do not define themselves (or believe they are defined) by their sexuality, we do not place a heavy investment in it as a relationship barometer. Hence, we are less distracted, devastated, consumed with how the outcomes of “casual partnerships” define us. Now, mess with a brother’s paycheck or zip code, and it’s a whole new ball game.

If you really want to get into the psychodynamics of how guys & gals play out the quest for meaning and fulfillment, let me know. I don’t want to get out of my proverbial rain puddle – wherein most of life takes place.

Cursed, as I sure you may have surmised, either I am a reasonably good BS artist, or I – like many of my cyber-siblings on this network – have come far on my way. I NOW consider myself to be a very grounded individual. By the way, where do yo peoples live? Tell them I’ll be bringing the sweat potato pie (I have a secret recipe). I was young, impetuous…. And so were they!!! HOLLAAAAAAAA!!!! But now, you, your mother, your pet goldfish, and yo daddy would have a ball with me…and I with them. I’ll give your mama my turkey recipe, I’ll slip your fish a partner-fish, and the old man and I will either fish, watch the ball game, fix his car, or discuss Paul’s position on tongues. And you’d be sitting back loving it all!

PS, you know what they say…”It’s a sorry dog that won’t wag its own tail!!!” Wag, wag.

Absolutely NOT. Too much problems in the post era.