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In my past experience with so called *online (and offline) love*, I've learned that if it seems too good to be true, it probably is!! You and this man can have incredible conversation and you may feel like you've known each other for years but, once you meet that vibe can change.
Three suggestions based on my own experience:

1) don't go in with pre-conceived notions about this man because he may not be all that he seems

2) keep your guard up. However, when it comes to meeting someone new, you cannot judge them based on your past relationships. They are not the people you were involved with in the past. it doesn't give him a fair chance to get to know you and *love* you IF he is one of the good guys

(BUT...be on the look out for red flags)

3) last but not least *PRAY* and when the Lord God speaks LISTEN!!!



This advise is not just for you but for me also!!! I've got some *issues* of my own.

Thank you for helping me remember and practice what I preach!

The first time I read this I thought... I AINT TOUCH'N IT!
(LOL)

I thought about it for a moment... And i came back to say..
I believe all things are possible.. Friendship and Love. If you have emotional baggage from past relationships, it will follow you no matter where you meet this person. I think as women we are so used to being "chosen" by men primarily on the basis of our visual that we don't think its even possible to have something good that comes from another direction.
I think you should search your mind and your heart and free yourself of the misconceptions placed by society...you also might want to free your self of the emotional bondage left by those past relationships so that you can really have something "good" to offer to someone else. Hope this helps..

8th

Wasn't expecting it but, your reply has touched a nerve! It's all for the good though. Thank you for being the woman that you are~~friendly, giving, spiritual and filled with wisdom.

Afri,
YOU my dear sista friend....

always seem to leave me in tears.... Do you even realize the gifts God is giving to you?
You are so Beautiful.... Powerful...
Your road will undoubtedly be a testimony
I wish you could see what i see....

~feel a piece coming on~

8th!

i shall wait a little longer before i speak on this piece for my wifey has spoken so much...

Head bowed down
praying for God to
open my eyes and reveal to me
this
beauty~
this
positivity~
that I
obviously fail to see.

I have my bible with me now
give me us (lady and myself a scripture)

okay...i stayed quiet this long so i hope you don't mind a bro's point of view. this is for ladybug, afri and anyone else who ask the same question.

when you address the concept of online dating you encounter one major risk...the fact that you don't know who you are really talking to. this is where a strong prayer life and deep spiritual relationship with GOD comes in. you have to first trust that HE would not bring to you anyone who is not worthy of what GOD is preparing you for. second you must know that the relationship will be a testimony to what GOD will do in your life.

Faith is the key for it requires that we allow GOD to search our hearts so that what we desire is what HE desires. Past relationships are one thing: PAST RELATIONSHIP. Although you learn lessons from them you should not hold future possibilites on the same level as the past ones for what I believe is that after going through all the stones, rocks and pebbles you will find your diamond...

Look at each person for who they are...then ask GOD to allow you to see them the way HE does for that is when you will know if this person is worth the effort. "Lonliness" is a concept of the mind designed to instill impatience. "Being alone" is time where GOD can build in you all that he desires. First determine where you are and then go from there.

The Bible says, "I, the LORD, search the heart, I test the mind, Even to give to each man according to his ways,
According to the results of his deeds." Jeremiah 17:10

Allow HIM to do this and the one HE has for you will soon appear. As long as we get in the way and allow our earthly mind consumes us with questions and self created answers then we will never allow the one to some into our lives.

Remember this,
YOU do not know who GOD has for you, nor do you know the plans HE has for you so you must rest in HIM and allow HIM to orchestrate your direction. From there that special person will appear.

The Bible says that "he that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing." the reason for this is, as the words says that "She is more precious than jewels; And nothing you desire compares with her." Proverbs 3:15 You are precious and don't let anyone tell you different...

Word of advice... STAY HIDDEN FOR YOU MATE WILL SHOW IN GOD'S TIMING NOT YOURS.

Online friendships are good when you trust and believe in GOD. If they grow into a deeper relationship then trust that it is GOD orchestrating and not your carnel mind seeking closeness with someone. Carnel thinking will lead you down the wrong path everytime. Without a strong foundation rooted in GOD, then there is nothing for the relationship to stand on...

just ask my boo... :D:

i pray this will help....

Afri,

check your email in about 10min.

8th!

For me, this has been a great help.
I need to print this out so that I may have something to reflect on when I feel myself getting caught up in emotions.


8th~~
Meet you in 10 minutes!!!!:)

#1 - MOST guys actually LOVE great conversation.
A phone call won't hurt.
Don't consider him to be a rare find
cuz he finds you interesting,
yet don't assume anything.
Play it by ear , but remember most guys
ARE good guys w/ good intentions.

#2 If the whole " I met someone on the internet "
tag is too yucky/desperate sounding / or juvenile
for you ( i've been there ) >
then calling would be more " legitimate " .
Me and my "online interest" ( when I had one )
- we mailed each other letters.

it was PHAT ! - the 1st one she sent me was
written on a paper towel.
and we vowed to NEVER write to each other
with reg. paper .
so for about 4 months, we got to know each
other and be creative - .
In the end, I didn't have enough of what she
wanted, but i don't regret the experience.
( our 1st face to face was at the millionfamilymarch )



#3 Don't listen to anything one has said to you.

if He doesn't have God in his life, then he's out.
other than that, how people meet and end up depends on the people.
i've heard of some getting married and some not clicking.
however
it's works both ways,
so really, nothing but time and destiny could tell you this one.

peace nfinite
j'hiah

what u say j'hiah?

private joke or am I confused? What did j'hiah say that was funny? I thought he spoke truth.

I get the feeling I'm missing something. If I intruded on something I apologize.

*slipping away quietly*

nothing more nothing less

if one considers hooking
up on the internet to be wild,
then he or she should consider
some of the occasional ways
people meet one another

club hopping is a prime
example and the most common
theory revolves around u
can't find love in the club
which i just happen to agree

so it's best to approach all
angles whenever possible cautiously

~infinitelovepeacenserenity :)

Alright PD...I feel ya on that. I don't even go to the clubs anymore. Not that my reason for going was to find a man but I got tired of these tired, phony men approaching me like I was a piece of meat! Most of them had no respect and was just looking for someone to take home.

Much respect sis!!

i only wear my versaces when something or someone has made me chill...

you have.
what you said it simply put, concise, and to the point adding no opinions or "this was my cyber experience" drama into what could or couldn't possibly be a destined relationship between the two...


Afri,
yo we act like dat
maybe we should let her in on our lil' kinection, pd...
naahhhhh!!!

oh by the way,
the previous response was to poetic delight.

my bad!

it's not to say anyone in particular
goes to the club to find a man
(however, some really do)

many simply go out to dance and
enjoy themselves
specifically, those who care for
the "CLUB SETTING"

just like any other outside interest
or hobby-you meet people w/o the
intentions of hooking up but may
come to discover you have things
in common to the extent of
possibly forming a relationship

every one doesn't "CLICK" the same
way and therefore everyone isn't
going to hook up over the internet
just like everyone isn't going to
hook up in the club

not to mention, there's a difference
between going onto the internet to
specifically get involved with
someone and utilizing the web as a
tool

IS IF EMOTIONAL FEELINGS IS THERE
WHY NOT GIVE DEM A TRY YET KEEP YA HEAD
MOST MEN CAN BE AFTER YA GOLRY POCKET
YET SOME CAN BE THE REAL DEAL EVEN IF ITS
FROM THE STREETS OR THAT PARTY OR NET ALL
THE SAME TAKING THAT SINGLE CHANCE IN ROMANCE
I FEEL IF THE LOVE IS THERE GO FOR IT WIT YA
EYES WIDE OPEN AND IF U CARRY A PAST WITH U
IF THIS IS TO BE THE PAST WILL FADE SLOWLY BUT
SURELY I KNOW A FEW WHOM NOW HAVE A BEAUTIFUL LIFE
TOGETHER FROM THE NET))) IT CAN HAPPEN!

TAKE YOUR( I say again)
TAKE YOUR TIME.

Traditionally in life
inital meetings are not true to itself.
I'm saying in my experiance you
meet peoples representatives first.

That is the person they think they are
or perhaps the person they would like to
be. I've met many people who
have tried to reinvent themselves with
a new intrest. We can all broaden and elavate
our mental prowess. But it takes time
so take yours.

MAGNUS

i would just like to thank all of you for your responses and i have decided to at least call him , i promise to hit yall up and keep yall posted with the up's and down's (hopefully it wont be any of those) i have had my fair share. well anyow i got an e-mail from him today and he says that he has been offered this realestate job for the summer but he is willing to come home to spend some time getting to know me. His "home" is wher i am located. he currently is in college and so am i and i really just don't know, he would also like to come down this weekend so me and him can meet at a restaurant and he says that if after that if i feel like he is not what i am looking for that i can just leave and that will be it, but then i am thinking to myself how does he know that i will be what he wants, i mean how can he be so sure of himself, i think his whole way of being is what is freaking me out, i never met no one like this before.
holla back

P.S if you all could tell me your ages i am curious to know, the ages of the peoples advice i am taking!(lol)

IN THE MIST OF THIS NOTION
SURELY BE CAREFUL OF WHAT U SEEK
YET IF HE IS WILLING TO BREAK FOR U THEN GIVE
HIM A TRY BE A FEW MINS. LATE SO U CAN SEE
FROM AFAR WHOM U MEET U MAY BE ALL HE SEEK
AND AGAIN U MAY NOT ON THE OTHER HAND
HE CAN BE WHAT U WANT AND MAYBE NOT
BUT BEAUTY IS SKIN DEEP YA HEART WILL TELL U
LISTEN TO YA HEART NOT WHAT YA EYES SEE
SPEAKETH FROM HEART NOT MOUTH AND LISTEN INTENTLY
TO HIS VOWS HE SPEAKETH OF SURELY U WILL KNOW
BE NOT OF FEAR JUST CAREFUL AND TAKE IT REALLY SLOW
I WISH U WELL AND ALL THE LUCK...DREAMS DO COME TRUE!

i think Richy Rich hit it right on the head

get it Rich!

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